Trouble in Paradise

Although Chris and I are completely in love, there is one problem that troubles me still. When Chris was 16 he had leukemia and fully covered (by the grace of God). However, this condition left his mom overprotective. I won't pretend that I know what it's like to have your child diagnosed with a possibly fatal disease. I do know that she has found an unhealthy way of dealing with that. No girl that Chris ever dates is good enough for him, no relationship he has is considered "serious" in the eyes of his mother. She especially hates the fact that Chris and I moved in together August 2005. She's morally opposed to the idea of living together before marriage. While I understand and respect that opinion, she still reacts in an inappropriate fashion. For example, I have been dating her son now for almost 4 years. She does not know the first thing about me and every time she is in my presence she pretends I'm not there. Granted, I should try harder to strick up conversations with her, but wouldn't you be reluctant to talk to someone who HATES you? I suppose I should just accept the fact that she hates the idea of "Chris's girlfriend" and not take it personally. I do though, and I can't help it. I just wish she would TRY to learn something about me. I mean her son OBVIOUSLY loves me, so maybe she should try just for his sake? Perhaps I'm asking too much. I'm hoping that when we get engaged maybe she'll realize that our relationship IS serious and I'm here to stay. On the other hand, it could get worse. What's even harder for me is that all my ex boyfriend's mothers have LOVED me. So, having one that doesn't is really hard for me to accept especially when she has no legitamate reason to feel that way. Living "in sin" isn't enough!